Given the state of the world today, just about every neighborhood needs a Self-Esteem Shop. Website: www.SelfEsteemShop.com.
I’m Not Good Enough
I don’t speak well enough.
I’m not attractive enough.
I don’t dress well enough.
I’m not confident enough.
I’m not educated enough.
I’m not talented enough.
I’m not creative enough.
I’m not smart enough.
I’m not good enough.
“You are as good as any.” -Author Unknown
“Real people aren’t perfect. Perfect people aren’t real.” -Author Unknown
“Always hold your head up, but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level.” -Max L. Forman (Max Leon Forman (1909 - 1990))
“Every achiever I have ever met says, ‘My life turned around when I began to believe in me.’” -Robert H. Schuller (Robert Harold Schuller (1926 - 2015))
“It doesn’t matter what other people think of you. All that matters is what you think of you.” -Author Unknown
“Believe in yourself and you can do unbelievable things.” -Author Unknown
“Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt as though you’d rather hide in bed all day than face the people that make you feel small or powerless” -Diana Agron (Dianna Elise Agron (born 1986))
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” -Kurt Cobain (Kurt Donald Cobain (1967 - 1994))
“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” -Thomas Carlyle (1795 - 1881)
“You are wonderful. Valuable. Worthwhile. Lovable. Not because others think so. Self-worth comes from only one place: self.” -Karen Salmansohn
“Have patience with all things but first with yourself. Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being. You are perfectly valuable, creative, worthwhile person simply because you exist. And no amount of triumphs or tribulations can ever change that.” -Francis de Sales (1567 - 1622)
“There isn’t a ruler, a yard stick, or a measuring tape in the entire world long enough to compute the strength and capabilities inside you.” -Paul J. Meyer (Paul James Meyer (1928 - 2009))
“Every human being is trying to say something to others. Trying to cry out, ‘I am alive, notice me! Speak to me! Listen to me! Confirm for me that I am important. That I matter!’” -Marion D. Hanks
Overhead: I compare myself to every person I ever see . . . and I lose every time.
“Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.” -Author Unknown
“The only person you should ever compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.” -Nathan Thomas Taylor (born 1966)
“Don’t let anyone ever dull your sparkle!” -Author Unknown
“To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” -Denis Waitley (Denis E. Waitley (born 1933))
“There might be things about yourself that you do not like . . . until one day you notice those same things in someone else who seems to be doing well enough in life. So go ahead and take a closer look at other people. You will see something of yourself in some of them and you will come to know an important truth, which is that you are a good enough person just as you are.” -Nathan Thomas Taylor (born 1966)
“I may not be totally perfect, but parts of me are excellent.” -Ashleigh Brilliant (born 1933): title of book (1978)
“Listen to your heart above all other voices.” -Marta Kagan
“Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.” -Robert J. Collier (Robert Joseph Collier (1876 - 1918))
One way to improve your self-esteem is to tell clean funny jokes to people . . . no kidding, it really works! Practice until you can tell the jokes without making mistakes, even if you stutter or forget how the jokes go at first. And, on the ‘Make Fun Of Life!’ Website, there are zillions of jokes and other funny stuff for you to tell to other people - but you cannot just post them on social media websites - you have to tell jokes to real people, face to face.
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear to do and get a record of successful experiences behind you.” -Dale Carnegie (Dale Breckenridge Carnegie (1888 - 1955))
“At age 20, we worry about what others think of us. At 40, we don’t care what they think of us. At 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.” -Ann Landers (pseudonym of Esther Pauline ‘Eppie’ Lederer (1918 - 2002))
“You’ve no idea of what a poor opinion I have of myself - and how little I deserve it.” -W. S. Gilbert (William Schwenck Gilbert (1836 - 1911)): “Ruddigore” (1887), act I
Atelophobia (a-tel-o-pho-bia) is a persistent fear of never being good enough or a fear of an insurmountable personal imperfection. Often this fear can be rooted in the experience and upbringing we have had by others, such as families, neighborhoods, schools, relationships, friendships, and initial work experience. We may have to counter this effect by doing our own upbringing of ourselves and not allow other people to be the sole source of our own upbringing. We must raise ourselves.
“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself. It is not in your environment, it is not in luck or chance, or the help of others; it is in yourself alone.” -Orison S. Marden (Orison Swett Marden (1850 - 1924))
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” -Peter T. McIntyre
Overheard: You can now worry less about what kind of person you are, because somewhere out there is a dog who thinks you are wonderful!
“Don’t listen to those who say, “It’s not done that way.” Maybe it’s not, but maybe you will. Don’t listen to those who say, “You’re taking too big a chance.” Michelangelo would have painted the Sistine floor, and it would surely be rubbed out by today. Most importantly, don’t listen when the little voice of fear inside of you rears its ugly head and says, “They’re all smarter than you out there. They’re more talented, they’re taller . . . prettier, luckier, and have connections . . .” I firmly believe that if you follow a path that interests you, not to the exclusion of love, sensitivity, and cooperation with others, but with the strength of conviction that you can move others by your own efforts, and do not make success or failure the criteria by which you live, the chances are you’ll be a person worthy of your own respect.” -Neil Simon (born 1927)
“Love not what you are, but what you may become.” -Miguel de Cervantes (Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra (1547 - 1616))
“Dear Lord, when feelings of insecurity and self-doubt creep into my heart, help me to see myself the way you do.” -Author Unknown
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” -e. e. cummings (Edward Estlin Cummings (1894 - 1962))
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.” -William Jennings Bryan (1860 - 1925)
“If you believe in yourself, things are possible.” -Shannon MacMillan
Overheard: I am really good at stuff until I find myself in a situation in which people are watching me do that stuff.
“Confident people are able to laugh at themselves.” -Author Unknown
“The foundation of lasting self-confidence and self-esteem is excellence, mastery of your work.” -Brian Tracy (born 1944)
“Millions of people would love to be you.” -Author Unknown
“Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well, too.” -David Storey
Overheard: I spent a fortune on deodorant and mouthwash before I realized that people did not like me anyway.
“Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” -Samuel Johnson (1709 - 1784)
“I am going to make it.” -You
“Your faith in yourself is all you will ever have. Don’t let anyone take it away from you ever.” -Holly Marie Combs
“Avoid negative people, for they are the greatest destroyers of self-confidence and self-esteem. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you.” -Author Unknown
“Why should we worry about what others think of us - do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” -Brigham Young (1801 - 1877)
“I am a nobody, and nobody is perfect; therefore, I am perfect!” -Author Unknown
“Having a low opinion of yourself is not ‘modesty.’ It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism.’ It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.” -Bobbe Sommer
“Those with a high level of confidence may have as many or more weaknesses than those with low self-esteem. The difference is this: instead of dwelling on their handicaps, they compensate for them by dwelling on their strengths.” -Alan Loy McGinnis (1933 - 2005)
“Our self-image, strongly held, essentially determines what we become.” -Maxwell Maltz (1899 - 1975)
“One of the great tragedies of life, it seems to me, is when a person classifies himself as someone who has no talents and gifts. When, in disgust or discouragement, we allow ourselves to reach depressive levels of despair because of our demeaning self-appraisal, it is a sad day for us and a sad day in the eyes of God. For us to conclude that we have no gifts when we judge ourselves by stature, intelligence, grade-point average, wealth, power, position, or external appearance is not only unfair but unreasonable.” -Marvin J. Ashton: ‘There are Many Gifts,’ in “Ensign” (November 1987) magazine, page 20
“What you think of yourself is much more important than what others think of you.” -Lucius Annaeus Seneca (also known as Seneca the Younger or simply Seneca (3 B.C.E. - C.E. 65))
“Don’t define yourself by negatives.” -Author Unknown
“Put your future in good hands - your own.” -Author Unknown
“What you think of me is unimportant. What I think of myself is what matters.” -Robert T. Kiyosaki (Robert Toru Kiyosaki (born 1947))
“The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.” -Author Unknown
“I think high self-esteem is overrated. A little low self-esteem is actually quite good. Maybe you’re not the best, so you should work a little harder.” -Jay Leno (James Douglas Muir ‘Jay’ Leno (born 1950))
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha (Siddhārtha Guatama, also known as Shakyamuni Buddha (about 563 B.C.E. - 483 B.C.E.))
“Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.” -Helen Keller (Helen Adams Keller (1880 - 1968))
Ofttimes nothing profits more
Than self-esteem, grounded on just and right
-John Milton (1608 - 1674): “Paradise Lost” (1667; 1674), Book VIII, line 571
Also known, though possibly paraphrased, in the form:
“Nothing profits more than self-esteem, grounded on what is just and right.” -John Milton (1608 - 1674)
“You can’t let other people tell you who you are. You have to decide that for yourself.” -Author Unknown
“Confidence comes from being prepared.” -John Wooden (1910 - 2010)
“If you must love your neighbor as yourself, it is at least as fair to love yourself as your neighbor.” -Nicolas Chamfort (also known as Nicolas-Sébastien Roch (1741 - 1794))
“I am convinced all of humanity is born with more gifts than we know. Most are born geniuses and just get de-geniused rapidly.” -R. Buckminster Fuller (Richard Buckminster 'Bucky' Fuller (1895 - 1983))
“Don’t live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable.” -Wendy Wasserstein
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt (Anna Eleanor ‘Eleanor’ Roosevelt (1884 - 1962))
“There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.” -Nathaniel Branden
Overheard: I am going to be more assertive . . . if that’s okay with you.
“Confidence is that feeling by which the mind embarks on great and honorable courses with a sure hope and trust in itself.” -Marcus Tullius Cicero (also known as Tully or simply Cicero (106 B.C.E. - 43 B.C.E.))
“You are officially the world’s okayest person.” -Author Unknown
“All things splendid have been achieved by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstance.” -Bruce Barton (Bruce Fairchild Barton (1886 - 1967))
“High above the noise and fear mongering of critics and cynics softly speaks your true self.” -Mollie Marti
“To have an incredible increase in self-esteem, all you have to do is start doing some little something. You don’t have to do spectacularly dramatic things for self-esteem to start going off the scale. Just make a commitment to any easy discipline. Then another one and another one.” -Jim Rohn (Emanuel James ‘Jim’ Rohn (1930 - 2009))
“You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.” -Michael Jordan (born 1963)
“The self-esteem to which I refer is something different. It is not blind, arrogant, vain love of self, but is self-respecting, unconceited, honest esteem of ourselves. It is born of inner peace and strength.” -James E. Faust: “Reach Up for the Light” (1 January 1990), page 31
“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” -William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616): “Measure for Measure” (1604)
“There are many wonderful things that will never be done if you do not do them.” -Charles D. Gill
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